Reframing is not a bandage

Let’s be honest — I’ve doubted the whole "reframe it" thing before.

Sometimes when I hear a reframe, even from my therapist and friends, I find myself thinking:
"Is this just a clever way to spin things so I feel better in the moment?"

There’s a part of me that resists — that believes it can’t be that simple. That it’s too good to be true. Just change how I think about it? Just tell a better story? That can’t really shift anything… right?

But here’s what I’m learning:

Reframing isn’t a spin. It’s not a bandage.
It’s not about glossing over pain or slapping on a positive thought.

Reframing — real reframing — is choosing a different intention, a different internal posture, a different relationship to what’s happening.

It’s a physical, emotional, and mental shift.
It’s a change in the energy I carry, the motivation I follow, and the presence I bring.

And let’s be real — it’s not easy.

Choosing to reframe doesn’t mean the problem disappears.
It means I meet it differently.
With more compassion.
With more clarity.
With more trust in the part of me that gets to choose again — even if I’ve been here before.

And yes, it takes effort.
It takes practice.
Because I’m not just repeating affirmations — I’m building a new way of relating to myself.

That’s the work. That’s the shift.
And it’s not a shortcut.
It’s the path.